I was talking to my Mom today and she told me a story about her sister Dolores. Today is Aunt Dolores’s birthday. Birthdays were very important to Aunt. We have close to 100 family members in our family and her goal in her life was to remember every last one of them.
Mom reminded me this morning that her and Aunt talked every day on the phone their entire life. In fact Mom said, even now when your Aunt is in heaven, I reach for the phone to share a story like we used to everyday of our life.
Happy Birthday in heaven dear sister Dolores, Mom said this morning with tears in her voice.
This story reminds me how important it is to appreciate, validate and love those important to you everyday. I found this poem today as I was reflecting on my conversation with Mom and her memory of Aunt Dolores. This poem is from an unknown author and reads like this…
“I’m sending a dove to heaven with a parcel on it’s wings, be careful when you open it, it’s full of beautiful things. Inside are a million kisses, wrapped up in a million hugs, to say how much I miss you, and to send you all my love. I hold you close with in my heart and there you remain to walk with me throughout my life until I see you again.”
The love Mom and Aunt shared was one of inspiration for anyone. Their relationship never wavered. One could catch them on the phone each day, sometimes twice and definitely if someone was celebrating, challenged or sick. They cried, laughed, supported and loved each other with each word.
Today, I sensed an emptiness in Mom. As I try and console her by saying the clinch phrase, “well it takes time, Mom it’s only a year. She quickly corrected me by saying, “this hole in my heart is not one that will improve in time, until I see my best friend again. I could say nothing to help Mom today, but simply agree.