The Blame Game

I have tried to understand people amidst all of our society’s conflict. Anytime something happens that is out of the ordinary it becomes a conflict. We immediately take sides in the circumstances of the event.

Has everyone forgot “The Golden Rule?”

It is hard to comprehend what actually is inside a persons thinking when they totally ignore how their action effect others. We are programmed to take a side on every matter. We are so polarized, the power halts our ability to work collaboratively and solve the problem. This polarity is so strong that it pushes us into opposite corners sometimes forgetting the cause of the the original disagreement. In order to feel that we have gained some control over conflict we must blame someone. Conflicts now have to be someone’s fault.

Has the concept of the “accident” become obsolete?

If something incorrect happens we are propelled to blame someone. In a culture of blame being accountable becomes impossible. The best example is the new organizational culture in today’s workplace. When something does not go as planned in our employment, everyone is scrabbling to place blame. Who’s fault is that? I didn’t have anything to do with that project! It is not my problem. I think Mr. Fault in operations is to blame for the problem. Along with all the persecution and blame, people are not willing to accept responsibility; therefore becoming less accountable and unproductive. People can spend more time worrying about personal risk than it would be to carry out the task. It is typical to hear people say, “I am not getting involved with that project, if it doesn’t work they will blame me.”  People are less accountable in fear of risk.  Instead of stretching people to grow, we have slowed invention, passion and collaboration.

The-Blame-GameInsurance companies would get rich if they created a new insurance product. This project would be No Fault Error Insurance. This insurance would cover you in the event you happen to make an error at home, employment or in any situation you have become accountable. When you worked hard at your job but the project ends in error, you could simply make a claim to your No Fault Insurance. This would protect you from being fired in the bosses office, board room, at your kitchen table or by your peers. We have life insurance, car insurance, home insurance, health insurance, why not get No Fault Error Insurance. When you make an error and use this insurance, no one could blame you. Instead you would file a claim. You would get a card, pass go and collect $200.

Lets face it we are all human.

I want to believe that:

We accept people as themselves.

We all do the best we can in every situation.

Nobody intentionally hurts someone.

We are loving, caring, good people.

When we seek respect and not attention, it will last longer.

Everyone is willing to share their toys.

We all live by the golden rule.

People are honest, present and loyal to one another.

We can delete the above statement, “I want to believe that.”

Amen to that!

Published by John Chianelli, Writer

I am second. I will share my experiences, as a child of God, husband to Daniel, father, best friend, brother, son, leader, professor, writer and photographer. My intention for this blog is to be random, with no plan, no list, no direction and no expectations. Very different from how I lived my past life. My journey has been blessed by the mercy and grace of God and unwavering love. I hope you enjoy reading and sharing my experiences of hurts, laughter, discovery, friendships, Christ, and my family. Temenos is a safe circle where you can be yourself with peace of mind. Temenos originates from a Greek word which refers to a universal instinct to create a protected, safe space in which to heal, restore and regenerate yourself. My temenos circle is a place to be still and seek Jesus. It becomes my place to pray, reflect in the word of our Lord to shrink, grow in him, and heal my soul. What is your temenos circle? By: John Chianelli ©John Chianelli and Temenos Circle. 2016-2011. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog's author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided the full and clear credit is given to John Chianelli and Temenos Circle with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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