Momology

Today is the eve of an important annual event. Sons and daughters rushing around to create the perfect day to honor an extraordinary hero in their life. This Superhero always finds the right thing to say or do to help support and guide you troughout life. She is always there when you need her whether it’s as a counselor, a helping hard or the paste that keeps a family humming. The strategy of love, sprinkled with a little guilt and a teaspoon of expectation directs our moral compass so we can travel in the right direction. These tools are what gives our Mom’s their superpowers.

My Mom is absolutely no exception to this rule. While in her 80’s her body is weaker yet her mind is sharp and her super powers have grown stronger. It’s interesting to watch her insight grow. Her ability to predict and expect stands strong. Her ability to think or analyze a situation is keen. Tongue in her cheek she remind us she hates to tell us she told us so after a situation has headed south. She humbly says she knows only because she so much time to reflect about life. While this is true, the wisdom she has developed from life experience is the origin of her superpower. It may also come with being a professional licensed worrier. In business we call this an analysts. In life we can call this a worrying Mom. In either case, this superpower protects our family in ways I can not even understand. 

As I reflect today about mothers and aging, I realize that their years of her struggle and experience can bring a significance and understanding about children, family and life. This wisdom is life changing for us children, if we take to heart the messages given by our Mom’s. Lets face it, Mom’s are something we all have in common. Whether your Mom is physically on earth, or in heaven, her love, knowledge and faith lives within each of us if we choose to press into the messages. As I grow older, I have decided that Mom’s are complex. Mom’s messages require children to think in order to appreciate and understand purpose in the life.

I call this concept, Momology or the study of Mom’s.

There are so many attributes about being a parent that I have learned from Mom.  I fully admit that while I understand her teachings, I have not been completely successful at passing along. This fact is something she points out to me always in the most suggestive, pensive and loving nudge possible. The perfect “Mom Sandwich” of feedback that you really do not understand for about a day and a half. The type of feedback that you ignore at first, but then when faced with lives struggle, you conveniently pull the tool out of your back packet to survive life.  This feedback is grounded in love but honestly stings at first. I have realized that this type of feedback is what has built my character. At face value it might look judgmental or controlling, but honestly it is the love that shapes who we are, how we will grow and how we live.

Mom and I love a good debate. We can chat for a hours debating politics, religion, society or life. One thing I have learned is that her beliefs are cemented in who she is as a daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother and friend. I know now as an adult, there is no changing Mom’s beliefs and I decided this strength is why I love her more each passing day. I know one thing for sure this morning about my life.

I am one of the luckiest men in world to have a Mom Superhero in my life. I hope you have one too.

Mom has taught me two of the most important values in life.

First, to always believe, keeping faith in God and second how to Love.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom.