As you are.

It is Interesting thinking about relationships in your life and how they work. Hard to imagine life without them they are the center of meaning in your life most of the time. Yet other times they also can be the center of everything that causes you pain. It is really hard to understand them especially when there is tension between you and the other person. This tension can be seriously frustrating.

It can feel like you cannot live without them while at that same time you feel like you cannot live with this person in your life. You can experience the tension yet don’t always know how to identify the cause of the emotion.

I randomly bumped into a friend the other day and it was so amazing to me that we were able to pick up exactly were we left off more them 5 years ago.

How is that possible?

What makes us connect to people so intensely while in some relationships is a phantom connection with other people? The friend and I had a great authentic relationship. We had so much fun together it was effortless. Never had conflict that I can remember, we just soaked up life, living in the moment. We were not worried about the future, never looking back but rather enjoyed being in the here and now. When we connected it was immediately as though we were back in the past. Time seemed to stand still, like a clock with a dead battery.

accept the callI was puzzled as I reflected on this relationship. What made some relationships so simply while others are chaotically complicated? Reflection convinced me it was the unconditional acceptance we had for one another. Accepting people as they are is no doubt important.  The truth of the matter is that any relationship whether within yourself, with Father God or between people in your life will take effort. Careful intentional nurturing is required to make sure your love for one another stays strong.

In the words of Carl Jung, “Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens.”


Published by John Chianelli, Writer

I am second. I will share my experiences, as a child of God, husband to Daniel, father, best friend, brother, son, leader, professor, writer and photographer. My intention for this blog is to be random, with no plan, no list, no direction and no expectations. Very different from how I lived my past life. My journey has been blessed by the mercy and grace of God and unwavering love. I hope you enjoy reading and sharing my experiences of hurts, laughter, discovery, friendships, Christ, and my family. Temenos is a safe circle where you can be yourself with peace of mind. Temenos originates from a Greek word which refers to a universal instinct to create a protected, safe space in which to heal, restore and regenerate yourself. My temenos circle is a place to be still and seek Jesus. It becomes my place to pray, reflect in the word of our Lord to shrink, grow in him, and heal my soul. What is your temenos circle? By: John Chianelli ©John Chianelli and Temenos Circle. 2016-2011. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog's author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided the full and clear credit is given to John Chianelli and Temenos Circle with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

2 thoughts on “As you are.

  1. Friendships are so interesting that way. I haven’t lived at “home” for over 5 years. I love the friends that I can not see for years and just pick up with where we left off. Other friends seem to resent the fact that I haven’t been physically present in their lives. Sometimes I’m surprised at who falls into each group! I.e., people who I thought might not want to continue a friendship years later are super happy to reconnect, others I considered long-term friends will lost interest. Treasure everyone, is the lesson I take from it, as you never know who will be there (or not) for you down the road!

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