It is Interesting thinking about relationships in your life and how they work. Hard to imagine life without them they are the center of meaning in your life most of the time. Yet other times they also can be the center of everything that causes you pain. It is really hard to understand them especially when there is tension between you and the other person. This tension can be seriously frustrating.
It can feel like you cannot live without them while at that same time you feel like you cannot live with this person in your life. You can experience the tension yet don’t always know how to identify the cause of the emotion.
I randomly bumped into a friend the other day and it was so amazing to me that we were able to pick up exactly were we left off more them 5 years ago.
How is that possible?
What makes us connect to people so intensely while in some relationships is a phantom connection with other people? The friend and I had a great authentic relationship. We had so much fun together it was effortless. Never had conflict that I can remember, we just soaked up life, living in the moment. We were not worried about the future, never looking back but rather enjoyed being in the here and now. When we connected it was immediately as though we were back in the past. Time seemed to stand still, like a clock with a dead battery.
I was puzzled as I reflected on this relationship. What made some relationships so simply while others are chaotically complicated? Reflection convinced me it was the unconditional acceptance we had for one another. Accepting people as they are is no doubt important. The truth of the matter is that any relationship whether within yourself, with Father God or between people in your life will take effort. Careful intentional nurturing is required to make sure your love for one another stays strong.
In the words of Carl Jung, “Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens.”