Farewell Uncle Joe

Tonight’s tribute is to a nobleman who lived a life that every human should strive to achieve. He was a man committed to working hard, leading and being a committed husband, father, son, and brother.

He was relentlessly selfless as though he existed to love and serve others.

He cherished his wife, Dolores, (Auntie) and provided for her as if she was a set of fine china. Gently keeping them from breaking and always perfectly safe to the best of his ability. He loved his 5 children, Joey, Mary, Linda, Nancy, and Lisa and all his son’s and daughter-in-law and grandchildren to many to count. (I love you cousins)

He loved and served others. 

He loved family. He loved parties, he loved to bake and cook. He loved to carry on customs of his Italian heritage. He was a teacher. He was always surrounded by youth, teaching them, not by preaching, but by leading by example. He worked side-by-side no matter the task.

He loved and served others. 

His passion was skilled trades first a machinist than a small business owner. I always thought of him as an innovator. He was a wise man, constantly thinking of the strategy to master his skill and provide for his family.

I am pensive tonight for two reasons.

First, I am not in town to celebrate his life with my cousins and family as they lay him to rest. Secondly, I am reminiscent of my relationship and all I learned from him.

He loved and served others. 

I was 14 years old when I had an opportunity to work along-side my Uncle. Just a kid, from Kenosha, innocent, inexperienced and insecure. Little did I know, he would become my mentor, someone who built my character, loved me and encouraged me to succeed. He took a great interest in teaching. A kind, gentle soul who always was a spiritual man honoring his beliefs while trusting in God through his faith in how he lived life.

He taught me to believe.

He taught me to work hard.

He taught me I could do anything I would set my mind to achieve.

He believed in me maybe at a time in my life when I didn’t believe in my self.

He loved and served me. 

I am forever grateful.

Colossians 3:23-24 “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”

Farewell, Uncle Joe.

I know as you look down upon us tonight, you have that positive can-do smile on your face. You loved and served us all and lead us by an example of your faith.

I’m celebrating your peace, reunion and being with Jesus.


Your Nephew,



Hello, safe space, old friend and inner circle of peace.

Neglectfully, I have not been on Temenos Circle almost all year. But I am back and here to stay. My time away has brought calmness following a storm. Time to think, process, find new ways of feeling, has brought me closer to God. I have spent time unwinding four decades of my life. In retrospect, I have no doubt or regret of the past, only loving memories that will be with me for my life.

As I say goodbye to some elements of my past,  it is important to prune away some branches, split some roots to multiple, in order to have new growth.

A painful process but necessary for sprouting.

I am thankful for the grace, healing, and mercy God has granted me.  I am thankful for my soulmate, my son, family, and friends who jumped on the boat and weathered the storm alongside me. I am excited about the new journey ahead, including the ability to start a fresh new life.  I am stronger, clearer, true and second.

Inspired by a new friend, Dottie, I am way ahead of my new year one-word principles. Setting smart goals makes me feel like I am in a box. As you know, conforming, taking direction, being in formation, simply is not how I roll. I need space and control to grow. The plan has to be mine and something I am impassioned about.  Here are my 2018 sensational six principles:


My plan is to add some new to my life. Time to have fun, take care of myself and get healthier than ever before. As I reflect on 2018 possibilities, I will need to continue to prune some old habits proven to be ineffective in achieving happiness. I hope this creates space for new growth. I want this year to be bold with focus.  One in which I commit to new ways of taking care of my mind, body, and spirit.

Goodbye 2017, can’t say I will miss you.

I am ready for an about-face and all the promise 2018 holds.

Happy New Year !!! I am back!!!


Who is your Influencer?

There are so many people that influence us in life.

Our family and best friends have a great impact what we do or who we become. Our co-workers, our boss and/or customers affect us daily.  Leaders in our world impact our lives through the decisions they make that represent and direct our world. Spiritual leaders like Pastors, shepherd us to find our connection with a higher power like God to be our advisor and counselor.

Celebrities on T.V. direct what we think about things, advertising, social media guide our feelings about issues. Doctors remind us to be well and take care of us when we are feeling sick. Teachers help us learn new ways of thinking about things given their experience on particular subjects.

Who is your most significant influencer?

Abraham Lincoln said, “That all I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”

Mitch Albom said, “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”

Michelle Obama said, “I tell my kids, ‘I am thinking about you every other minute of my day.’”

Condoleezza Rice said, “My parents elected me president of the family when I was 4. We actually had an election every year and I always won. I’m an only child, and I could count on my mother’s vote.”

Lady Gaga said, “Acceptance, tolerance, bravery, compassion. These are the things my mom taught me.”

Edgar Allen Poe said,  “I feel that, in the Heavens above / The angels, whispering to one another, / Can find, among their burning terms of love / None so devotional as that of ‘Mother'”

Mother Teresa said, “If you want to bring happiness to the whole world, go home and love your family.”

Mark Twain said, “My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it!

Proverbs 31:28 reads, “Her children rise up and bless her.”

I am sure that all of have a Final influencer. The women that we call our mother. Whether your mother biological, adopted, or the women who raised and loved you, we all have been influenced by this long-lasting relationship.

How has your mother influenced you?

Happy Mother’s Day Mom, I love you most.

Out of the Darkness of Trauma. Intensive Supervised Release Conference State of Minnesota.

Thank you MN friends for your interest in learning about Childhood Trauma.

Clink below for today’s presentation 


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